Understanding the Signs, Struggles, and Misconceptions
Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is more than just a childhood condition—it affects millions of adults and can manifest in ways that impact daily life, relationships, and work performance. In this blog, we’ll explore the core symptoms of ADHD, while also answering related questions people frequently ask, such as struggles in adulthood, the possibility of late-onset ADHD, and what not to say to someone living with the disorder.
What Are the 12 Symptoms of ADHD?
The 12 core symptoms of ADHD are generally divided into two categories: inattention and hyperactivity-impulsivity. These are the key behavioral markers professionals look for when diagnosing ADHD:
Inattention Symptoms:
- Frequently makes careless mistakes in work or daily activities
- Has difficulty sustaining attention in tasks or play
- Often doesn’t seem to listen when spoken to directly
- Struggles to follow through on instructions or finish tasks
- Disorganized and struggles with time management
- Avoids or dislikes tasks requiring sustained mental effort
Hyperactivity and Impulsivity Symptoms:
- Fidgets with hands or feet, squirms in seat
- Leaves seat in situations where remaining seated is expected
- Runs or climbs excessively in inappropriate situations
- Talks excessively
- Blurts out answers before a question is completed
- Has difficulty waiting for their turn
Note: According to the DSM-5, for an ADHD diagnosis, individuals must exhibit several of these symptoms for at least six months, and symptoms must negatively impact social, academic, or occupational functioning.
What Are the 20 Symptoms of ADHD?
While the DSM-5 highlights 12–18 core behaviors, the 20 symptoms perspective includes additional traits commonly observed in ADHD presentations, such as:
- Emotional dysregulation
- Chronic lateness or forgetfulness
- Poor impulse control
- Restlessness (even if not physical)
- Difficulty prioritizing tasks
- Poor listening skills
- Low frustration tolerance
- Frequent mood swings
These broader behavioral traits are particularly useful in diagnosing adult ADHD, where symptoms may present differently than in children.
Can You Develop ADHD Later in Life?
ADHD is considered a neurodevelopmental disorder, meaning it typically starts in early childhood. However, many adults are only diagnosed later in life, often after years of struggling with concentration, impulsivity, or disorganization.
So, can ADHD start in adulthood?
Technically, no—but late recognition or diagnosis is extremely common. Sometimes symptoms become noticeable only when life demands increase—such as during college, parenthood, or high-pressure careers.
What Are the Struggles of ADHD in Adults?
Adults with ADHD face challenges that go beyond distraction. Some of the most common struggles include:
- Difficulty managing time or meeting deadlines
- Impulsive decision-making that leads to poor choices
- Disorganization in daily life, from cluttered homes to unpaid bills
- Trouble with sustained relationships or communication
- Job instability due to inattention or conflict
These issues often lead to low self-esteem, anxiety, or depression—further complicating the ADHD experience.
How to Calm Down ADHD in Adults?
Managing ADHD in adults involves more than willpower—it often requires a multifaceted approach, including:
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to address thought patterns
- Medication like stimulants (e.g., Adderall, Ritalin) or non-stimulants
- Mindfulness practices to improve emotional regulation
- Routine building and external reminders
- Physical activity, which has been shown to reduce hyperactivity and anxiety
Building self-awareness and identifying personal triggers is also key in managing the emotional and behavioral symptoms of ADHD.
What Are the Disrespectful Behaviors of ADHD in Adults?
It’s important not to confuse ADHD symptoms with intentional rudeness. Still, some behaviors may be perceived as disrespectful:
- Interrupting during conversations
- Forgetting important dates or responsibilities
- Zoning out while someone is speaking
- Failing to follow through on promises or tasks
These actions are often not deliberate, but a result of executive function challenges. With awareness and support, many adults with ADHD learn to communicate and self-regulate more effectively.
What Not to Say to Someone With ADHD
Words matter. Even well-meaning comments can feel dismissive or invalidating to someone with ADHD. Avoid saying things like:
- “Everyone gets distracted sometimes.”
- “You just need to try harder.”
- “ADHD isn’t real—it’s just an excuse.”
- “Why can’t you just stay organized?”
Instead, show empathy by asking how you can support them or learning more about how ADHD affects their daily life.
Final Thoughts: Recognizing and Supporting ADHD
Understanding the symptoms of ADHD is the first step toward creating a more kind and informed society. Whether you’re researching symptoms for yourself or a loved one, it’s important to recognize that ADHD is a legitimate, treatable condition—and no one should have to manage it alone.